““One Alone” or “Only Lonely””


In one of my writing classes during undergrad, my professor read to us an excerpt from one of his essays on traveling, this one particularly about traveling alone. And one of the echoing themes he used was the distinction between his coined phrases “one alone” and “only lonely” — and there is a difference, isn’t there?

I remembered that reading because yesterday I came cross an NYT article weighing the pros and cons on the rapidly increasing number of Americans living alone as opposed to the previous norm of cohabitation.

The appeal of living alone, as pointed out in the article, is the liberation that comes with the territory. Like Kate Bolick says to NYT about her “white flax bloomers”:

“That would be the height of intimacy if someone saw [me in] those.”

It struck me that while I’ve experienced an unprecedented level of comfort with my current boyfriend (i.e. I fart and still feel the flaming burn of embarrassment afterward – kill me now), I’m positive there are things (“Secret Single Behavior”) I would do without him around.

Example: I would eat cereal for every meal of the day standing at the kitchen counter while watching television.

That’s what a lot of this website is all about, right? That moment when you realize, “I wouldn’t be okay doing this around anyone else.” Living alone is comfortable, but moving beyond comfort and learning to be your “single self” around another person might be worth the effort.

It’s my nature (and most people’s) to crave solitude at times so that I can do things like eat cake for breakfast, and yet, if I really thought about not having my partner available to me, I think I’d feel pretty lonely. Only lonely.

(image c/o Flickr via Creative Commons)

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“Celebrity Matchmaking”


I know, I know — it’s Taylor Swift and Zac Efron, objets de tween obsessions, and they aren’t actually together, but it’s fun to imagine they are, isn’t it? Watch this video and you’ll agree with me.

I readily admit, singing couples have the same effect on my musical-loving, dweeb self that this has on most of the population.

Here’s hoping for TayZac, ZacLor, LorZac? (You know, like Lorax.) They all kind of sound like a prescription pill. Maybe it’s just not meant to be.

(video c/o TheEllenShow via YouTube)

P.S. I promise this will not turn into a tweeny bopper fan site.

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“A Nun and Priest: A Love Story”


Nothing scandalous here. Just an incredible love story of a man and woman told by their son via Tweets (on last year’s Valentine’s Day). If you’d like to read/listen to the whole story of John Fugelsang‘s parents, it’s here on

Trust me, it’s worth it. See you on Monday!

(image c/o John Fugelsang via NPR)

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“It Was Love When on KUOW 94.9”


Head over to KUOW 94.9’s website to listen to Rob Elder talk about “It Was Love When” and sister site “It Was Over When”!

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“It Was Over When on Chicago’s ABC 7”


Our sister site just released its new book It Was Over When and founder Robert K. Elder was on Chicago’s ABC 7 recently to talk about it:

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